There Is Nothing Wrong With Asking Tom Hardy About Sexuality

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Brian Moylan is a writer and pop culture junkie.

Tom Hardys sexual orientation has made headlines in the past. Now, his refusal to talk about talking about sexuality is causing a stir. It shouldnt.

On Sunday, at a press conference at the Toronto International Film Festival for Hardys new movie Legend, in which Hardy plays a gay man, reporter Graeme Coleman from the LGBT news outlet Daily Xtra asked Hardy: Do you find it hard for celebrities to talk to media about their sexuality? After an awkward back-and-forth, Hardy shut down the question with Thank you.

Digg posted the video with the headline Tom Hardy Has The Perfect Answer To Reporter Asking Him About His Sexuality. But if anything this should make Hardy look bad, not the reporter.

There is nothing embarrassing about being gay. There is nothing dirty or taboo about it. Asking someone if he or she is gay is the equivalent of asking if they are married, if they were raised Christian, of if they have a bachelors degree. It is a factual question. Just because being gay affects who a person has s*x with, this is not a question about his or her s*x life. Its not asking about which sexual positions a person prefers or how often they m********e. Those are, of course, personal matters that should never be asked about (unless by a very close friend at a boozy brunch).

The reason why some people dont want to askboth at press conferences and at cocktail partiesis because there is still that little lingering doubt in the back of their minds that there is something wrong with homosexuality. If you ask someone whether he or she is gay, and he or she is not, they should not feel badly about themselves or about you.

Gay people are, in most cases, happy to tell you that they are gay. Straight people hardly ever get asked whether theyre straight or gay and might be taken aback by the question, but they seem to never have a problem setting the record straight. (Asking how much someone makes or how much they spent on a dress, however, is still off limits.)

Regardless, these questions are especially relevant given Hardys past statements and his role in this movie. In 2008, while Hardy was promoting another movie in which he played a gay man, British gay lifestyle magazine Attitude quoted him saying Ive played with everything and everyone. Hardy later denied that he ever had s*x with men and said he was misquoted. In Legend, Hardy plays both Reggie and Ronnie Kray, twin British gangsters. Ronnie is known to have been gay, and recent reports claim that both brothers were bisexual.

Thats likely why the reporter asked about Hardys sexual orientation. Its the same reason why a reporter might ask the man playing Jesus in a TV movie whether or not he was raised Christian. It doesnt question his competence as an actor, but it does have relevance to what sort of personal experiences he brings to the role.

I get why Hardy is upset with the inquirythe question has been asked and answered. We dont need to ask Neil Patrick Harris or Wanda Sykes about their sexuality for every role they play. The issue is that the question is whether Hardy finds it hard for celebrities to talk about their sexuality, and Hardy says no when everything about his response seems to say the opposite.

Those who are celebrating Hardys response seem to think that keeping people from asking about sexual orientation is helping end homophobia. Its just the opposite, in fact. It further convinces people that being gay (or even asking if someone is gay) is something shameful that needs to be hidden. Its not.

A more honest, interesting answer would have gone something like this:

Yes, I do find it hard to discuss sexuality as a celebrity. I made some comments that were misquoted by a magazine and ever since then questions about my sexuality always pop up. I am straight. It just shows how obsessed we are, as a culture, with gay people and gay s*x. Who we sleep with doesnt matter, and I wish that this matter could be closed for good rather than being brought up at every opportunity for mere titillations sake.

That would have been the perfect answer, but Hardy unfortunately didnt give it.

Source: http://time.com/4033914/tom-hardy-sexuality/